The one “secret” to success — practice following the impulse to do what’s right.

When I make a choice for my ideals rather than what’s comfortable or easy in the moment, I tend to keep going.

Similarly, I didn’t feel like writing this blog post. I only had one thing to say: “Do what’s right”. But that wouldn’t be very helpful just to write that. So I had to allow my thoughts to expand. What does “do what’s right” really mean? Why is it hard, and what we might do about that?

There are unlimited excuses. Here are just a few examples:

“People need me.”

Are you allowing other people’s needs to seem more important than your own top priority? (I’m not asking you to be selfish and not help others — I’m asking you to *not* make other people the excuse for why you’re not making progress.) You can do your top priority, then help others.

“I’m so busy.”

The many things on your to-do list that are less important — yet easier to do — may be crowding out your top priority. Resolve to get started on the top priority thing first, then “reward” yourself with the less-important tasks.

“I’m not feeling well.”

Your own lack of perfect health will give you unlimited reasons for why you shouldn’t work on your top priority. “You should slow down, rest more, take it easy. It’s not healthy for you to work so hard…” the wily ego is saying to you. (If you’ve read my blog post on “frequent creative rest” you know that I *highly value self-care* but too many people use it as an excuse to not work on their top priority. They forget self-care when working on *other people’s* needs or on their own lower-priority stuff… and then use self-care as an excuse to postpone the difficult yet high priority / high-growth-potential project.)

“I need to learn/prepare ____ (fill in the blank) ___ first.”

It is easy to forever be in “preparation mode” and not make real progress on your top priority. Your ego, your resistance, tricks you into believing that there’s such a thing as “getting your ducks in a row.” Let me tell you from my decade of business experience: there are no ducks! There’s only you taking action, being willing to learn from failure and disappointment, rather than pretending there’s some fail-proof formula and magical instruction guide that will allow you to take perfect action. It’s all imperfect action, my friend. That’s the truth. (Or simultaneously we can say that it’s all perfect action, no matter what.) Experiment > Observe > Modify… and Repeat that cycle over and over again. Learn *by taking* action. You already know enough to get started.

“I’m just not inspired right now.”

Truthfully, I didn’t feel like making this video, but by the end, I was inspired to make more. Also, I didn’t know what I was going to write today in this blog post, but I just started writing (very haltingly sometimes) but by the end of the first page, I was in more of a flow, and much of what you just read, came from that flow, which came from the willingness to just get started doing the right thing. You simply need to get started doing your top priority project, and you’ll be given more clarity and motivation. Action begets inspiration, not the other way around.

Life gets easier when we train our conscious choice towards doing what’s right. Life gets harder the more we choose the easy route.

And, every time you recognize that you went for what’s easy, versus making the right choice, and you resolve to do better next time, then please forgive yourself (or remember that are forgiven by God.)

 by the author.

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George Kao

George Kao

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Authentic Business Coach & Author of 4 Books including "Authentic Content Marketing" and "Joyful Productivity" https://www.GeorgeKao.com