The one “secret” to success — practice following the impulse to do what’s right.

If I had name only 1 overall “secret” to success that I’ve noticed in people with admirable lives, it’s this:

Follow the impulse to do what’s right, especially when one doesn’t feel like it.

Sounds simple, but it’s actually quite subtle. The impulse to make progress, to do what is good for the future, is at the same time being counteracted by the impulse to do what is easy, convenient and less good for the future.

Therefore, I never give the advice to do what feels good” or “follow your bliss” because it’s very easy for the ego to twist those mantras. We end up thinking “do what’s comfortable right now” … rather than “do what feels good in the long term, yet will feel uncomfortable right now.”

Isn’t that what conscious living and true growth is about? The willingness to make a choice for our ideals, when we are faced with less-helpful, ingrained patterns.

The video you see here? I didn’t feel like making it. It was a bit rainy outside and I don’t like being dripped on. My throat wasn’t working properly because something I ate earlier that day had gone down the wrong pipe, and I was still trying to recover. Plus, it was Friday afternoon and I wanted to end my workweek. Yet, it was the time I had scheduled to make the video.

The truth was that it it was merely uncomfortable to get started. But once I started, it became a bit easier, then even easier if I kept going. It often seems to be that way. That’s how our human behavior works: we keep going once we have really started.

When I make a choice for my ideals rather than what’s comfortable or easy in the moment, I tend to keep going.

Similarly, I didn’t feel like writing this blog post. I only had one thing to say: “Do what’s right”. But that wouldn’t be very helpful just to write that. So I had to allow my thoughts to expand. What does “do what’s right” really mean? Why is it hard, and what we might do about that?

Today, you are going to face several moments when you have a blip of a conscious choice — just a second where you can decide to pursue your ideals, to do what’s right in your heart/soul… and it will feel uncomfortable to your body. It will be easier to go with your existing patterns or negativity.

May these words inspire you to say YES in the moment to your goals, your vision, your ideals and TAKE ACTION without further hesitation.

Perhaps you want to be more consistent in showing up for your business, maybe by writing a blog post today, or making a video, or reaching out to someone, or announcing an product/service/event. It’ll be easier not to do it. Your ego / existing patterns is more tricky than your conscious mind, and will come up with excuses for why you should put it off.

There are unlimited excuses. Here are just a few examples:

“People need me.”

“I’m so busy.”

“I’m not feeling well.”

“I need to learn/prepare ____ (fill in the blank) ___ first.”

“I’m just not inspired right now.”

We truly grow, every single time we make the choice to do what’s right, to get started, to make progress, to say “no” to one of the above excuses and get into action. We move closer to a heavenly life.

Each time we opt for the comfort/convenience/easy route that feels less-aligned with our ideals, we are falling toward a more hellish life.

Life gets easier when we train our conscious choice towards doing what’s right. Life gets harder the more we choose the easy route.

And, every time you recognize that you went for what’s easy, versus making the right choice, and you resolve to do better next time, then please forgive yourself (or remember that are forgiven by God.)

Self-punishment is always an unhelpful choice. Choose instead to simply imagine how you might do better next time, and then get back up and practice again.

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Authentic Business Coach & Author of 4 Books including "Authentic Content Marketing" and "Joyful Productivity"

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