Holistic Ways of Relating to Money

Money is often on our minds. Are we relating to it in a healthy or anxious way?

Take a look at the perspectives below. Perhaps you can relate. And you might find an idea that can improve your own relationship to money.

These wise, heart-based business owners are part of an online mastermind group I facilitate called MasterHeart.

Rich Indeed

Money is quite the loaded topic. I’ve gone through periods of wanting to make a lot more because hey, isn’t more better? And it always felt awkward, forced, and stressful.

What I find more joyful and harmonious is to live simply, engage in free or low cost pleasures, and acknowledge the material riches in my life — a roof over my head, clothing for every season, the ability to eat pretty much whatever I want when I want it, books on my shelves, music in my CD player. I have plenty.

What’s been most helpful for me is to define success and abundance on my own terms; not “more, more, more!” but “enough and then some.” If I can cover my expenses, get away for an occasional retreat, enjoy a meal out with friends, or splurge on a pretty new top at TJ Maxx, I’m satisfied and rich indeed.

Sharon Rosen, Mindful Living Guide and Energy Healer

Self-Compassion and Money

Accepting more abundance (in the form of money, mostly) has been a major issue in my life. In fact, I am finding myself in a challenging financial situation at the moment, but I am feeling hopeful and positive rather than anxious and fearful. I owe this attitude to the following:

  1. I started noticing how my money issues were showing up in my life. The things I procrastinate or self-sabotage on taught me that I had some deep rooted mindset issues about receiving and self-worth.
  2. I approach these issues with self-compassion, and do whatever inner work it takes to create a better mindset. This is ongoing work!
  3. I keep in mind that what is happening in my life now is old news! It is the result of past thoughts manifesting. So things can only get better!
  4. When I’m feeling negative emotion (resistance) about money, I get off the subject and focus on other things for a while. Nothing good can come from making decisions when you feel worried or desperate.

Esther Lemmens, Visual Brand Consultant

Tracking, Trust, Tactics

Coming from a family of scarcity, money worries are a default setting for me. Even in times of good cashflow, I’ve found myself inexplicably worried it won’t stay that way. My remedy might seem counterintuitive but it never fails to help: Tracking, trust, and tactics.

Tracking: A simple cashflow tracking system in Excel lets me see what I need. It tracks inflow/outflow for the next 30–90 days, and thus always tells me what needs to flow in to balance things out. Once I toughened myself against the irrational fears that came up, it became a manifesting tool.

Trust: When it recommends I earn another, say, $500 by a certain date, something aligns in me and begins searching for flow. It turns on a different part of my brain by giving it a destination. I don’t “beat the bushes” for new income; opportunities just seem to magically stand out. It’s like the optical illusions where you suddenly CAN see Abraham Lincoln in the mosaic.

Tactics: It helps me to have offerings of varying sizes and costs. Having products in the $0–50, $50–100, $100–500, and $500+ ranges gives me something to offer people in many situations.

Margaret Rode, Founder/Owner, Websites for Good

What if You Felt Safe and Joyous about Money?

I believe that the way I feel about anything in my life, including money, affects the quality of the reality I continually attract into my life. Having money worries will continue to attract more life experiences for me to warrant even more worries.

What I usually do is to feel how my body is reacting to my money situation, and I usually find that my feelings become much lighter. At this point I will then wonder what it might feel like to feel safe about my finances. When I genuinely feel safe about my finances, I will then move on to wonder what it might feel like to feel joyous about my finances.

Another tip that has really helped me is to detach my income from my money needs. In the past I would think that this particular paid session is going to help me pay for my phone bill, and another session would go towards paying for my lunch and so on, but I find that this perspective made me feel even more desperate getting more business. When I stop mentally assigning each income to each expense, I find myself serving my prospects and clients from a place of abundance and joy.

I am really glad to realize that I do not worry constantly about money anymore.

Bingz Huang, Self-love Coach and Energy Healer

Making Space to Give Attention To Your Money

This may seem weird, but I have a tendency to forget about the money aspect of my business. It’s not that I don’t want to receive it. It’s more like I struggle to remember to include it into the equation of what brings me joy when I’m serving others.

So to strengthen the conscious connection between my business and money, I set aside an hour or two a week to focus on the finances of my business. During this time I pay myself, update my bookkeeping, look at my profit and loss report, review my budget and set intentions for the money I want to receive and how it will be used.

This conscious connection time has turned into a sacred practice. I’m finding that just making the space to pay attention, has helped to increase my ability to move money through my business.

Sandy Freschi, Human Design Specialist

Adjust Your Beliefs About Money

Money, and the love of money, have tremendous power. Money and what it can do varies as widely as each person. Watch how someone handles their money and you will get a good idea about how they handle love.

Often, there can be poverty mentality. The belief that if you are spiritual and a healer, then you should struggle for money. It seems to be unconscious in some people and verbalized in others.

The work I do with my clients around money begins with a self-examination of how money is viewed and handled, beliefs about those who have money and those who do not, how much money is enough money, and any concepts about the use of money in daily life.

Step 1: Write about your beliefs about money. Include any lack of money or abundance concepts, beliefs and ideas.

Step 2: Determine what is working and what could use some adjusting.

Step 3: Talk through belief changes and actions to support a healthy use and belief of money.

After all, money is a tool. The tool designed for our welfare and use. It is not meant to be worshipped or thrown away. Good stewardship is the goal. Take the best care of your resources so that your resources can take care of you.

Dianne Allen, Mentor and Author

Noticing Your Early Messages About Money

I’ve experienced a high degree of adversity at certain periods of my life and I’m so grateful to my early upbringing in resourcefulness and resilience that enabled me to come through those tough challenges with considerable success. I realize what it grew in me is TRUST. I created new channels to survive single parenthood, divorce, homelessness, being on the breadline, and other tribulations, and I notice I have ALWAYS had enough. Sometimes I had just £14 for the week’s food. It was enough. Not surplus, just enough.

While I knew there was enough, and I never feared poverty, I could not allow myself abundance.

Early messages about money were —

  • You have to work very hard (like my mother) to earn enough.
  • Those who have MORE THAN ENOUGH are either–
  • People who must have done some dirty (shady) work to get that money.
  • People of rank who are entitled to their wealth by virtue of their status.

In my mid-50s I realised how tight my thinking was around ‘filthy lucre’. In shifting my embedded beliefs the universe responded.

Now, while I love the work I do to earn my living, I experience ease, abundance and gratitude.

Tamara Alferoff, Transpersonal Psychotherapist and Mentor

These wise, heart-based business owners are part of an online mastermind group I facilitate called MasterHeart.



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George Kao

George Kao

Authentic Business Coach & Author of 4 Books including "Authentic Content Marketing" and "Joyful Productivity" https://www.GeorgeKao.com