A thought to consider:
Your life is actually working perfectly.
I’m not talking about some ethereal sense of “It’s All Good!” (although I believe that too!) In this post, let’s talk about what is actually in your control.
Whatever is happening in your life has a system behind it. There’s cause, and effect. You experience the effects. You have more choice in the cause than you can imagine.
Yes, there are always causes beyond your control… but if you frequently blame others, society, your history, or The Universe, then you are giving up your power to others.
I believe in conscious systems design.
I believe that many of the results I’m getting are due to the systems I allow to take place in my life.
Those are systems I can re-design and therefore see different results.
If I am perpetually waking up late, then the system behind it might go like this:
* I can’t wake up until I get enough sleep.
* I sleep too late, so I wake up late.
* I sleep late because I start my evening routine late.
Once I diagnose a cause that I can control, then I design a new “system” accordingly:
* I can plan out a new evening routine schedule that allows me to sleep earlier.
* I can set a reminder to start my evening routine at the new, earlier time.
As you can see, even something as simple as this issue, is a “system” that can make a dramatic difference in one’s life.
“Time management is really the management of routines…. The purpose of routines is not to turn you into some sort of automaton, but to free your consciousness to work at a higher level.” — Mark Forster
My alarms/reminders aren’t really helping me.
* The reminder/alarm goes off.
* I ignore it
* I keep doing what I was doing.
That “system” can be changed too:
You wish for less time at the computer.
The “system” behind it is that you get mesmerized or “stuck” at the computer for hours without taking a break.
I wrote about a better system in a post called Frequent Creative Rest:
You don’t have enough clients.
The system behind it is either:
* You’re not making enough effort to acquire new clients
* You’re making enough effort but it’s not working
Either way, the new system needs to be “making enough effort to get new clients” —
Your email inbox is continually giving you stress.
The system behind how you process email is broken. I wrote about a better email processing routine here: https://www.georgekao.com/blog/email
Your days are filled with reacting, rather than being proactive, so by end of day you wonder if you made good use of it.
I wrote about a system of “daily reviews” that has helped me get clear and prioritize each day: http://j.mp/1ZX0Rj3
You have projects you aren’t getting done. You keep procrastinating.
Your system for how you think about that project needs to change. I call it your “motivational method” — http://www.georgekao.com/blog/motivationalmethods
What’s not working well in your life? Could you sketch out a possible system behind it?
And then, what might the new system be?
Sometimes you will want to search online and read articles about the issue and the cause behind it. Look for what different systems, routines, plans, processes, templates, structures, or habits that other people like you are using to get better results.
Other times you may want to work with a coach or therapist that specializes in that issue, to help you design a better system for your specific situation.
It can also be helpful to also notice what is working well in your life, and what is the system that is causing it to work well?
This brings appreciation, as well as an understanding of what systems are compatible for you.
In other words, the systems that you allow in your life, are working just the way they’re supposed to. If the results are good, then it’s a good system for you. If the results are “bad” then you need to re-design the system.
As you become increasingly conscious of the systems in your life, you’ll have more choice about changing them.
Step by step, you can completely change any system you aren’t loving.